Quotes

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Reflection of Self

Published March 5, 2015 by uncommonmommy

Between the needs of all three wee littles, the animals,  the house,  our stomachs, friends,  errands,  jobs, etc., it becomes very easy to feel overwhelmed, and to cut myself from the to-do list.

Really,  how much time can I spare for myself,  for my own needs,  passions and joys, without taking it from my already dwindling sleep allotment?

Then I read this quote,

Tonight, as I was getting ready for bed, I paused and looked in the mirror.  “Love Looks,” I thought, “God, I could use some Love Looks, too.” Little doses of pausing and looking at myself with compassion.   Little moments of being kind to myself, looking at myself, and seeing the holy right here within me, too.
Lisa A. McCrohan

And I realized, just like with all the big goals in life,  we only get there one step at a time.

I may not have hours to pamper myself or uninterrupted blocks of creative time, but I do have the ability to look at myself in the mirror and acknowledge a job well done, a strong woman doing her best, and that I’m an integral part of the human experience deserving of love and kindness from those around me,  but most especially from myself.

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Nurturing Self

Published March 3, 2015 by uncommonmommy

As we begin to unravel the mystery of who we truly are,  we may find the things that bring us the most joy,  or are a soothing balm to our souls,  may not be what we expected,  and almost certainly not what we wish they were.

There are a number of ways to discover these hidden gems.

Some people experiment with a wide range of new activities,  leaving their comfort zone in search of something that clicks.

Some people reflect on the activities they loved as a child.   In fact,  that’s a pretty good starting point.

You may ponder the question,  what do I do for fun, when no one is looking?  Or, what would I do if money were no object?

Often what we wish we loved,  we simply don’t.

I for one am enamored with the idea of being an ultramarathon runner.  I love the idea of camping outside year round with no belongings.   I want to hike the Appalachian Trail,  take up boxing,  be a yogini, do cross fit 5 days a week, play harp, piano and drums and speak multiple languages.

But here’s the thing,  I hate running.  I’ve tried and we do not make happy companions.   I also do not do well in group exercise classes.  I’m not competitive or violent,  and I no longer travel to foreign lands.  And,  need I mention I have 3 children? 

My truth,  my spiritual balm,  my peace comes from much more mundane activities.   I love to walk through nature with no goal in sight and sit by rivers and in random patches of sunlight.  

I love to take pictures of nature and am finding I’m pretty good at painting them, as well.  In 30 years I’ve never lost interest in words.   I love to read,  journal,  blog,  write stories, pay scrabble, and day dream.

My celebration of music does not involve hours spent practicing an instrument.  It does, however,  express itself in song throughout every day,  dancing at home,  in grocery stores and in the car (much to the embarrassment of my children) and in listening to classic rock on vinyl.

As far as yoga and exercise go,  I bought an aerial yoga trapeze for the house.   It’s cheaper than classes,  there’s no one to impress or compete with,  my kids can use it,  and when I was of playground age,  hanging upside down and flipping around on the monkey bars was my favorite activity.

When we accept our limitations and embrace what we truly love,  we not only come to know ourself better,  but we begin to nurture ourself and fill our lives with meaningful,  honest work.  We begin to walk in joy.

Self, let me mother you.
Let me take time to read the pages of this riveting book.
Let me visit this blog where I find hope and understanding.
Let me cry—I don’t have to be strong all the time.
Let me encourage myself: Who I am becoming matters more than who I once was. Today matters more than yesterday.
-Rachel Macy Stafford

 

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Reinvention of Self

Published March 1, 2015 by uncommonmommy

How often have you had the longing to escape the doldrums of your current circumstance?  The wish to reinvent yourself? To start over?

The magic of reinvention doesn’t lie in moving to another state,  leaving your family or significant other,  or changing jobs.  Those things might be catalysts to motivate you,  or even by-products in the long run,  but they alone do not change you.

Reinvention comes when we forgive ourselves,  accept our past,  relinquish its power over us,  and start making choices based solely  on what is right for us. 

Reinvention seems easier when you’re surrounded by strangers and have yet to have been cast a role in their play.

But, reinvention starting from where you are today,  that’s courageous. What’s more,  it’s authentic.  And, if we’re being honest,  at that point, it’s really less about adopting a new personality and much more about allowing your true self to grow and mature.

Growth is not easy.  It is not a quick fix.  It is messy and heart wrenching and ultimately beautiful.

We do not grow absolutely,  chronologically.   We grow sometimes in one dimension,  and not in another;  unevenly.    We grow partially.  We are relative.  We are mature in one realm,  childish in another.  The past,  present,  and future mingle and pull us backward,  forward,  or fix us in the present.  We are made up of layers,  cells,  constellations.
– Anais Nin

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Learning Self Love

Published February 27, 2015 by uncommonmommy

Let’s say you’re walking through the grocery store when someone catches your eye.   They look vaguely familiar,  but you can’t remember the first thing about them.   Perhaps you were introduced once through a friend,  or sat next to them at your kid’s game,  either way, they are heading your way with the same spark of recognition and a really nice smile.

Do you:
A) greet them kindly, strike up a conversation and end up exchanging facebook handles or phone numbers
B) immediately jump into a relationship and expect a perfect marriage
C) look really concerned with finding the right can of tomatoes and hope they don’t talk to you?

So it is with self love.

It starts with the realization that we may not actually know ourselves all that well,  particularly if you’re new to this journey.

You can continue to ignore who you truly are and hope everything works itself out.

You can decide this is a no-brainer and obviously you love yourself,  in fact,  why bother asking questions,  just get married already.

Or,  you can begin the slow beautiful unraveling of who you truly are. Find out your interests,  beliefs, and passions outside of social influences, cultural obligations,  the role you’ve been playing,  your job,  and the expectations of others.

Only through getting to know your genuine self can you begin to like yourself and allow that to blossom into love for your self. 

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.
-Anna Quindlen

Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.
-Aberjhani

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Love of Self

Published February 26, 2015 by uncommonmommy

We often spend so much time trying to love others we neglect to take care of ourselves.  

Who can love us if we do not first love ourselves?

We all want desperately to be loved by those closest to us,  but we cannot control their emotions,  thoughts or actions.   The most we can do is to give ourselves what we crave so much.  We can choose our own happiness, acceptance, joy, emotions and self talk.

Let us first choose our own happiness,  for what is more attractive; a confident happy individual, or a needy demanding mess?

You yourself,  as much as anybody in the entire universe,  deserve your love and affection.
-Buddha

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Animals and Love

Published February 24, 2015 by uncommonmommy

Connection is the energy created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.
~Brene Brown

If you’re a pet person, think back on your favorite cat or dog. 

Do they come running in excitement when you return home?
Do you pet them, pick them up, or cuddle them?
Do they know they can depend on you for more than just food and water?
Are you companions to each other, each deriving comfort from the closeness of the other?
Do you still love them even when they have dog breath, mange, rub their butt across the rug,
     hack up hair balls on the floor, vomit on your bed,
     or intentionally knock over any beverage left unattended….every…single…day?

Yes?

Do not the people closest to you deserve the same quality of relationship?

Don’t you?

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