Let’s say you’re walking through the grocery store when someone catches your eye. They look vaguely familiar, but you can’t remember the first thing about them. Perhaps you were introduced once through a friend, or sat next to them at your kid’s game, either way, they are heading your way with the same spark of recognition and a really nice smile.
A) greet them kindly, strike up a conversation and end up exchanging facebook handles or phone numbers
B) immediately jump into a relationship and expect a perfect marriage
C) look really concerned with finding the right can of tomatoes and hope they don’t talk to you?
So it is with self love.
It starts with the realization that we may not actually know ourselves all that well, particularly if you’re new to this journey.
You can continue to ignore who you truly are and hope everything works itself out.
You can decide this is a no-brainer and obviously you love yourself, in fact, why bother asking questions, just get married already.
Or, you can begin the slow beautiful unraveling of who you truly are. Find out your interests, beliefs, and passions outside of social influences, cultural obligations, the role you’ve been playing, your job, and the expectations of others.
Only through getting to know your genuine self can you begin to like yourself and allow that to blossom into love for your self.
The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.
Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.