Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy.
– Thomas Merton
Love is the choice that you make when you are able to connect with [another] beyond your ego.
– Judith Lasater
When choosing to love others, we must realize we are called to love them “as is.” Just like us, they are complete. Complete with competencies, inadequacies, strengths, weaknesses, light, darkness, and hidden recesses.
We do not get to choose which parts to love. It is an all or nothing deal. Merchandise “as is,” take it or leave it, no returns.
Knowing this, what will you choose?
For your children?
The bum passed out in the alley?
Will you stand in judgement of their behavior? Of their worthiness of your love?
Or will you offer it unconditionally? Realizing, regardless of the fragment you’re seeing in the other at that moment, they are indeed complete and remarkably identical to you.
If you deny the other, you deny yourself.
Choose love, my friend.
For all of us.
Picture by Kelly Willis
Happy Valentine’s Day.