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Today is going to be difficult. There will be parts that seem intolerable.
There will be irritation, annoyance,
and an ample amount of your requests being ignored.
Expect these things to occur.
Acknowledge that it happens.
Reconcile that it is normal.
Love yourself and your children despite these assurances.
Then you will find
That today is a good day
Filled with lots of little joys and oh so many hugs.
When you stop expecting beauty and brilliance, you’ll find you’re surrounded by it.
“Existence already accepts you. You do not have to earn it, you are already worthy. Relax, enjoy the way nature has made you.”
The Universe never fails to present me with all the tools I need to learn a particular lesson. Over the last six months or so I’ve been really working on not yelling and getting so angry at my children. I’ve made tremendous progress, only to find the exact things I was trying to get rid of creeping up in other parts of my life. I knew something was amiss, but couldn’t quite figure out where I’d gone wrong.
Then, on a whim, I picked up the book Emotional Wellness by Osho, and realized I wasn’t addressing the emotions, I was repressing them. In the book, he explains our body’s physical manifestations of emotion and that even the act of suppressing those physical reactions represses the emotion itself, and by effect the opposite emotion.
I wanted to be less angry and more loving, but by repressing anger I repressed love. What a tragedy.
So as I’m processing this and wondering how to appropriately express all emotions, and even more important, how to teach my children to do the same, Carrie over at The Parenting Passageway, announces a workshop in January over this exact topic!
The very next day, I sat down with my boys to watch our weekly episode of Mister Rogers only to see him sing this song about how repressing our emotions is a repression of truth, and, of course, it’s the truth that will set us free. (Click the link for the song, it’s only 2 mins, and it is heartwarming <3 )
“If you can trust nature, by and by you become quiet, silent, happy, joyful, celebrating– because nature is celebrating. Nature is a celebration. Look all around. ….The world is celebrating. The world is not sad, the world is a song, an utterly beautiful song, and the dance continues. “
Emotional Wellness by Osho p36
“The sun is shining- the sun is shining. That is the Magic. The flowers are growing- the roots are stirring. That is the Magic. Being alive is the Magic- being strong is the Magic. The Magic is in me- the Magic is in me. It is in me- it is in me. It’s in every one of us.”
~Colin from The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
When you find yourself faced with difficult, life changing, messy complicated decisions to make….
Pause. Drop the all the factors you’ve been weighing: What’s the best, smartest, financially safest route? What about the time and/or money I’ve invested? What do others think? What will others say? Does it make me a failure? Will it bring me happiness or success? DROP IT ALL,
and ask yourself,
“What will give me peace in this moment? What will allow me to breathe a sigh of relief?”
When you’ve answered that, you know your heart’s decision. Choose it. Commit to it. Feel solid in knowing you are following your peace. All else will fall into place. When you act from your heart space you’ll always make the wisest decisions.
Lori Petro from teach-through-love.com provides some much needed suggestions to handle our children’s rudeness and inappropriate responses at holiday gatherings.
“Remember, it is about consciousness not perfection.”